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Thriving and Growing as an LDS Single

“Take a man out….” We did it!

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Thanks to James Kiing of the Facebook group Married in 2015 who came up with this idea, and Matt Campbell of several LDS single’s Facebook groups who passed the idea along, this motivated several friends and I to “Just Do it!” We picked a date and my friend Christine picked out a simple but fun activity: picking pumpkins at a pumpkin patch, carving them, and playing games at her place. The original idea came from another apartment of awesome women in our ward, but James’ meme, and the amount of traffic it generated here, was the last push we needed, and we had a great time.

I keep preaching that “It’s Just a Date,” because really, that’s all it is. (More on that later.) It’s so easy for me to use my health as an excuse to not date, but really, if the point is just to get to know someone better, than “It’s Just a Date” cancels out that excuse.

It’s here where I have to give kudos to you men who do this on a regular basis. I had decided that I needed to ask someone that I already knew pretty well. I was still terrified, in fact, more terrified than usual. My roommate was cool as a cucumber and just called and asked someone she’d met recently, and didn’t seem flustered at all. Another friend did the same thing, but then he had to back out at the last minute. Part of dating life. Last but not least, Christine decided to let another friend and I set her up.

Everyone proclaimed they had “a lot of fun,” and seemed to mean it. We all got to know each other better.

Verdict? Our women friends who couldn’t make it last time all want to do it again this next month. I must admit that I was hoping for a break (yes, men, I’m a wimp). Not from the date, but, you know, having to figure it all out again. 😉 We already have our activities planned. So, single men and women, you really can “just do it.”

 It’s just a date. 

Results of our work of that night, and refreshments:


Christine’s caramel apple slices

It's just a date. (A fun, low key date).

It’s just a date. (A fun, low key date).


Author: pickleclub1971

I'm a single mom of 2: a Southern CA native, who transplanted to Utah 4 years ago. I have one 18 year old who is off to the Ivy League, and one 14 year old who is in high school. I served an LDS Mission to Southern France and I’ve also lived in the San Francisco Bay Area, Idaho, Northern Arizona, and New Hampshire. I love 80’s music, classical music, choral music, playing the piano, singing, speaking what French I still remember, and talking about history and music with whomever will listen. I love that my kids are better at math than I was at their age. (But they still get frequent historical references from me…anyone familiar with Ducky from NCIS? He’s that kind of medical examiner, I’m that kind of mom.) My kids also think I know all the lyrics to all the songs from the 80’s, mainly because I’m good at making them up and faking it when I don’t know. Sometimes they catch me. I’m currently disabled with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). I want to get better (of course) and be an advocate for trauma survivors and others with mental illnesses. I like people in general. I suffer from the delusion that I can make everyone my friend, but of course that isn’t possible: but I still believe that the world can be a better place.

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